Day 108...baby shower fun

May 7

Baby showers typically have not been a lot of fun for me in the past... That was before I had Martyn however. I think I need some growing up to do also....but today was one of the best baby shower's I've ever been too! It was so much fun! I really like that more fun than getting to show off Martyn, was getting to bless my friend, and enjoy a sort of fellowship with her and her family and friends. I don't know Jill very well yet, but I really like her. From the first time we met, on New Years, I've liked her.

Going to her baby shower, and seeing how much her family especially, and her close friends care for and love her, was just super cool. It really blessed me, to get to see that.

Of course it was great fun to get to show off Martyn too, even though he wasn't the only baby there....and not even the youngest baby there either. That was pretty cool too. He's a good boy, and didn't have a major freak out until close to the end because it was bed time for him...mama lost track of time because she was having such a good time, ha!

On the way home (from way NE Vancouver) I was thinking about the group of ladies I had just met, almost all of them for the first time...including both of Jill's sisters. I like seeing people interact with their friends and family, who are close to them. But even who are not close exactly, like me for example. All those ladies had never met me before, yet they still really kind of took me into their circle. It was nice.

That's something I feel like I'm missing in my life. A group of women my age, that I'm close with...and have things in common with. I do have that, but none of them live near to me. I miss having my girlfriends....the other thing about that is that a lot of my good friends, who live in other states, don't have a huge amount in common with me, now that I have a baby. They are still my close friends, and would do just about anything for me....but the dynamic of our friendship, have changed drastically since I've been married to Eli, and especially now that I have a son.

I was thinking about my baby shower, before Martyn was born. Those ladies, a lot of them now related to me by marriage, really have taken me into their family. My baby shower was awesome, and I felt so loved and blessed by it....(I still haven't done my thank you cards, I'm so lame!) Still though, I don't have a lot in common with a lot of them. I suppose that's just something I'll have to work around.

I like feeling like it's ok to have female friends...even more than that, I'm realizing the need for close friendships...often times in the past, I have just gotten fed up with the caty-ness that often goes a long with women, and have just gotten along with men better than women. It's not that I don't get along with women exactly...I just don't feel like putting up with the bitchiness I guess. I know I'm totally capable of being bitchy...but I'm pretty low maintenance and that's the difference. I've never had the mentality that another women is my enemy...and sadly, that seems to be how a lot of girls are raised. There's always competition with each other, and I just don't get that.

It was really cool to be surrounded by a group of women, and not feel like they were competing with each other, or with me. Very refreshing.

Martyn totally turned into a pumpkin right on time, while I was still at Jill's house. So I figured it was time to leave. When we got home, I was beat! I pretty much just took him straight to bed, and stayed there with him. It was a great day!